Christopher John Gosizk Jr Birthday!

Christopher John Gosizk Jr (CJ)

After 3 years of trying, the day had finally come. Christopher John Gosizk Jr (CJ) was born on February 14, 2015 at 12:21am in Honolulu, Hawaii. This was one of the happiest days of our life. CJ can be the sweetest, loving kid and some days the most challenging kid we know. There is never a dull moment with him. He is definitely keeping me on my toes. He is our Valentines Day gift and we wouldn’t ask for it any other way.

Happy Valentines! Happy Birthday!


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Trying to understand Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)

What is Sensory processing disorder?

The sensory processing disorder or in short (SPD) is a condition in which the sensory signals function work properly to pass the relevant responses. It limits a portion of the brain from getting the needed information so to interpret this sensory information correctly. Children suffering from this state can have difficulty performing various tasks since they find it hard to process the information they received. This condition can significantly affect the learning ability of school-age children.

As a parent you always want the best for your children. When difficult situations arise you sometimes beat yourself up wondering if you did something wrong or ask yourself are you doing enough? Being a parent of a child that suffers from SPD can be overwhelming, challenging and sometimes rewarding. Yes rewarding! Seeing the improvements, overcoming difficulties and doing things you’ve never knew they could do, gets you excited and it becomes rewarding for all.

Experiences with SPD

Most of the children with SPD also experience problems in their motor skills. SPD also increases the risk of children from developing various educational, emotional, and social disorders. It makes it hard for them to meet other people and make friends. Children with this condition can also suffer from depression, anxiety, and aggression. Aside from that, these children can also become uncooperative, disruptive, and clumsy.

Each child is different but there are so many things that can possibly go wrong. My son has his own way of coping with situations that seems normal to most kids but very stressful to him. He does not respond to his name and he only repeats some words he has heard numerous times. Not responding to his name is a difficult thing to deal with especially if we’re trying to have playtime outdoors but we have to have eyes on him at all times to ensure that we have a quick response to the potential dangers around.

He will not eat solid foods due to the texture. This is also a huge factor in his developmental system. There comes a point where he will need to have these essential foods to grow and be healthy. He plays mostly by himself or when once over stimulated he will find an area to be alone to seek comfort. When he’s having a sensory overload, we say he’s having a neurological ‘panic’ because it’s his response to everyday sensations the rest of us take for granted.

Types of Treatments

Fortunately, most cases of sensory processing disorder can be treated at home with the help of caregivers and parents. The first thing that parents can do is to focus on the individual’s needs of their children. These needs vary from child to child. It is important that parents learn to determine the things that make their children feel secure and loved. It will also help if they give them the opportunity to do the things that they love.

Having physical therapy and occupational therapy has benefited drastically. You may not see the results right away but it’ll come. There is an abundance amount of care available to children with SPD. Parents can develop exercises, tools, and activities that can help their child learn some of the basic things. It is better when parents use the exercises that are suggested by their child’s doctor or therapist. Activities such as swinging and also playing are known to help children become more focused.

Distress times

In times of distress, parents should remain calm. It is advisable that they remove the things that make their children feel distressed. If the cause of the distress is the surrounding, it will help if they bring their children to a place where they can relax. It is also important that parents learn to identify other factors that affect their children.

Children with sensory processing disorder need the love and support of their parents to help them manage the condition. Parents should make sure that they provide their children the treatment they need. It is also important that they engage their children in various activities that match their sensory processing needs. With the right treatment and activities as well as with the support from a parent, children can effectively deal with their sensory processing disorder.

Look for the signs

I saw the signs and although I was told, he would grow out of it; I was not willing to take that chance. Seeing early signs that something is different with your child is one of the hardest things to deal with because you are in the unknown stage due to age. That did not matter to me at all. The earliest I was able to get the treatment the better. It’s never a bad thing to listen to your parent instincts and seek help even if it turns out to be nothing. I want to give my children every single opportunity at life there is so they can have the tools they need to succeed. Having SPD is difficult for both the parents and child but YOU have the power to make a change.

My husband and I are still learning and, neither of us had ever heard about this disorder until it happened to our child. I am asking for any other stories or testimonials that could possibly assist our child in the future? What therapies have you or someone you’ve known tried? As each case is different and unique, are results basically the same? Sometimes the hardest thing to get is an answer when professionals are reluctant to speculate because of the uniqueness of each case. We are just trying to get more answers to help us as parents as much as helping our child.

A stay at home mom and a mom going out to work.







Pros Vs. Cons of being a stay-at-home mom and a mom going out to work

Today there are those who still think that being a stay-at-home mom is only part of our performance as women and even something that does not require a much effort. While there are those who know that having and caring for children is a full-time job. Only every woman knows whether she should continue working or stay-at-home. However both scenarios has its pros and cons.

The first thing I would like to emphasize is the concept of what it is to stay-at-home and keep working because when you decide to stay and raise your children, it does not mean at all that we are not going to work. On the contrary, those who value this decision know that work at home is sometimes even more forced than doing it at a company, because at home there are no established hours or a pay that equals all functions.

However, those who leave must also bear the weight of the responsibilities that their profession indicates, more apart from getting home and keeping up with the pace, therefore I dare to say that there is no inclination towards either of them.

 Moms who stay at home 


  • You do not have a fixed schedule so all day you’re up and down.
  • You have no monetary payment.
  • Everyone thinks that since you are at home, you do nothing.
  • Although you dress well, you end up full of throw-up, milk, paint, mud and the unknown at times.
  • You miss working and interacting more with adults
  • The unemployment gap gets bigger.


  • You are all the time with your children, which could make up for everything.
  • You do not have to worry about asking permission to go on vacation.
  • Once you pick up the pace, the tasks become easier and you get organized better.
  • After a certain stage you start to take more time for yourself.
  • As your children grow, you can add more recreational or restful activities to your day.
  • Do not worry about getting daycare or babysitting. 

Moms going out to work


  • You miss many special moments with your children.
  • Many people dismiss working mothers as abandoning their children.
  • It is a constant battle to find a reliable school, daycare or nanny.
  • In addition to the work of the office, you get home to take care of the children.
  • You must be well dressed even on the days you put on a shirt and sports pants.
  • Every day you get up early and you just do have a break.
  • In constant conflict over extended hours or meetings that do not allow you to leave work early.


  • You have a profession and good economic support.
  • The feeling of an additional independence.
  • An additional paycheck.
  • You’re staying in the game career-wise.
  • Staying connected to the larger world.
  • The intellectual stimulation is fulfilled.

So as you can see, there are many advantages and disadvantages of either role as a mother, although the perspective can change according to the priorities of each woman. If you insist on combining both tasks, there are many options about work at home which may not be the same as going to work but you can continue enjoying your little ones.

Is it worth it?

From the moment I found out that I was pregnant I knew I had to stay at home. At times I really wanted to go back to work but the overall feeling of being at home for their biggest first moments in life has meant everything to me. They have impacted my life tremendously and made me such a better mom and person. They have shown me how precious and delicate life was and my world will never be the same again. It is most definitely worth it.

In Vitro Fertilization

In Vitro Fertilization: The good, bad, and just all out amazing process

After three years of trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant, our doctor recommended that we try In Vitro Fertilization. This process is commonly known as IVF. Female’s eggs are removed from her ovaries and mixed with sperm in a lab. Embryos are then transferred into your uterus then after, you pray that you’re pregnant.

Being 33 and having to do IVF hurt my pride and my emotions more than anything hurt. The feeling of being a mom meant everything to me. I placed my career and education first then the time came where I was ready but I couldn’t, well naturally that is. Looking back at my life I wondered where had I failed trying to find answers. I wanted to know what did I do wrong or what happened along the way. Either way, I soon realized that anything is possible even if you need help to get there.

Our first time going through the IVF process was in Hawaii. I found out I had an ovulation disorder with uterine fibroid and ovarian cysts; which were surgically removed before both of my IVF procedures to lessen the chance of miscarriage. There were some other issues so we knew this was our only chance.

The process:

Step 1: The fertility medications to stimulate egg production. A trans-vaginal ultrasound is used to examine the ovaries, and blood test samples are taken to check hormone levels.

Step 2: Eggs are retrieved through a minor surgical procedure that uses ultrasound imaging.

Step 3: The sperm sample maybe not so much fun but he is officially my sperm donor haha!!

Step 4: In a process called insemination, the sperm and eggs are mixed together and stored in a laboratory dish to encourage fertilization. After the insemination process we found out that we had 9 fertilized embryos. That was such a shocker and relief. Now all we have to do is transfer.

Step 5: The embryos are usually transferred into the woman’s uterus three to five days following egg retrieval and fertilization. Continue reading “In Vitro Fertilization”

How we met – The censored version

Was it love at first sight?

That’s a good question and I’m sure many have asked ourselves that before, I did. “If you believe in love at first sight, you will never stop looking.” Closer (2004; directed by Mike Nichols). Love at first sight doesn’t always mean a sexual attraction. It’s a connection that you both have that can lead into something profound and genuine.

I’ve always been a sucker for love, relationship, and family and at one point it felt like it would never come. The relationships didn’t last or the ones that lasted a while just went down the drain because “HE” had to cheat or the ex came back into their lives and those 5 years we were together meant nothing.

When I met my ex-husband, I knew I was on the rebound from a broken heart but I was desperate for someone to take away the pain. I wanted someone to make it right again. It didn’t take long for me to convince myself that this was it. Well I was so far from being right. Haha! We got married after dating for about 6 months and I saw signs but was blinded by the idea of marriage. Let’s just say that we were not on the same level and childish games was not part of my game.

I wish not go into details but lets just say when she called I was not mad. I simple said “He’s in the shower, please call back” a couple days later I was out the door and I did not look back. Those 3 years were just hiccups in my life that have made me stronger today. One thing I did swear to myself that I would never get married again. Man was I ever more wrong on that one too.

Okay, let’s get to the real deal. So I asked my husband to write something about when we first met. Here you go!

His story

I was in Iraq in a very low energy unit; some would say its mission was just as important as any other units. I challenge that based on prior deployment experiences. Nevertheless I was there and kind of enjoying it. There were many things to do when not in shift and I maximized my opportunity to keep my morale at a high level. I was placed on a weird shift, as I was the only one in the unit that worked half the day with the day crew and the other half with the night crew.

Working 3pm to 3 am, so naturally when all the top dogs went home at 8pm I spent some time with the night shift and the environment was much different. It was still a quiet room, which I typically don’t allow for any lengthy period of time.

Anyway, during my deployment a unit transitioned and in came another just as usual. Always replacing unit like a revolving door. The new unit was ready for work and then there was her. A SSG with beautiful dark skin, the lights of the room shined off of her. Her hair was maybe shoulder length. She had the best twist or braids on the top I’ve ever seen. Sometimes she looked as if she was ready to kill, but she always looked stunning.

As mentioned, I was always loud and always making myself known. Sometimes I would go to the area she was at only to BS with those around her. I never thought anything about pursuing because I had that fear of speaking to females because I never know if I were too direct; and if I was, would it be sexual harassment. So I never said anything.

Making the move

Then I got some emails that made me think it was ok to speak to this female whom I already thought was something I would pursue for a good time. We exchange emails, we exchanged propositions and ultimately we snuck off at the end of my shift to get a good night kiss in a bunker.

I went on leave and she never left my mind, I knew I wanted to be with her and I was prepared to do whatever I had to in order for that to happen. So I returned to Iraq and we had our weekly date night at the little pizza joint on post and we continued to vibe. I knew that in order for anything to work for any period of time I would have to jump in and make her my wife. We discussed how much we didn’t know about each other.

We ultimately hung out everyday. No alcohol around, talked, did adult things, and planned for our future and how scary it would be. After barely 4 months of knowing each other we got married in Las Vegas while she was on leave. She left Jody Greene and 2 weeks later went back as Jody Gosizk.

Now almost 7 years later, we are still married with 3 beautiful children and we continue to learn and tolerate each other as we grow as individuals and parents.

I love my wife, I’m so glad she emailed me that night in Iraq.

End of his story!

Final note

The way he tells this always makes me laugh. There’s so much more to it but we’ll stick with this one because the shit this guy says and how loud he was while on night shift is nothing compared to what he wrote. I’m not sure if it was that, his unforgettable laugh, or his statue that drew me to him but from the first time we talked I knew that was it for me. He was the one!

Was it love at first sight? No, it was love at first conversation. Not everyone’s love starts the same. I’ve maintained hope but I had stopped looking. All it took was a conversation.