Is suicide the new norm?
About 1 year & 1 month ago, I wrote a post about suicide not realizing that today I would have the same conversation with myself. After watching the news and reading about two suicides back to back it has truly put me in a mentally confused state. There are so many questions that are unanswered; which makes me ask even more questions.
Do we truly understand suicide?
Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s own death. Risk factors include mental disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, personality disorders, and substance abuse. How can we see the signs if the signs aren’t there? You will see below why I asked this. In my opinion these signs are rarely there because of society, family, friends, and social media. They have caused us to want to fit in and adapt to our surroundings.
Public– when we go out into the public eyes or take pictures we put on that fake smile or pretend we’re happy so that we won’t disrupt whatever event is going on. As long as our life is not disrupted there is no need to go out of our way for anything or anyone else. ***At least that’s what I’ve experienced***
Mobile devices– we’re constantly on our mobile devices and forget to read each other’s body language. Body language can give clues to something being wrong without even saying a word.
Medication– we’re being given drugs to disguise our true feelings. For example, Prozac, which is considered a safe and effective drug in treating depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and bulimia (I was psychologically diagnosed with all except bulimia- makes you think right?). Antidepressants may increase the risk of suicide in people younger than 25 years. It can lead to suicidal thoughts, or a worsening of these, in children and young adults. This drug takes up to 4 weeks to see effects and if taken incorrectly can cause even more damage.
Counseling/therapy– Let’s talk about your day! Well I spent all day trying to rephrase everything I thought, do, and say from being negative to being positive. So now no one knows I’m struggling with my true feelings. Hmmm!! Sometimes we feel judged and shut down by letting our internal emotions take over. We have a social figure to uphold in society and we’re supposed to be strong for those around us. So going to counseling is just a way to say we did it but in reality we just pretend we want to be there.
Do we truly understand the people around us?
Some examples of possible triggers for suicide:
- real or imagined losses
- a breakup of a romantic relationship
- moving, death (especially if by suicide) of a loved one
- loss of freedom or other privileges
Does this mean that anyone of us can commit suicide at any time due to a trigger that we cannot overcome? If the ones we look up to and admire commit suicide, what does that say for us? Once again, so many questions on top of the questions those that are already there.
Warning signs that an individual is imminently planning to kill themselves may include the person making a will, otherwise getting his or her affairs in order, suddenly visiting friends or family members (one last time), buying instruments of suicide like a gun, hose, rope, pills, or other forms of medications. They have a sudden and significant decline or improvement in mood, or writing a suicide note. Contrary to popular belief, many people who complete suicide do not tell their therapist or any other mental-health professional they plan to kill themselves in the months before they do so. If they communicate their plan to anyone, it is more likely to be someone with whom they are personally close. They will most likely tell a friend or family members but is this even true anymore?
For years I’ve been battling abandonment, loneliness, depression and anxiety. I do know how to hide it well. This is how I know that the effects of the pills, therapist, and even social media impacts our lives (good and bad). There are good days and bad days but as I look at my family, the good always out-ways the bad. I still to this day spiral in my thoughts about the same things over and over again. There is absolutely no one who can change it but you. We have to dig deep down and understand exactly what we want in life. Not physically, not financially, not emotionally but mentally. It takes over and it can break us down or make us stronger.
I believe there is a reason for everything. I recently read something online and it said some of the common themes that seemed to have driven these men to suicide, and that the enemy are still using them against us. They are fear, despair, hopelessness, depression, illness, darkness, guilt, disillusionment, deep heartache, loss, grief, pride, revenge, and sin.
Nowhere in the Bible does it indicate that the act of suicide, no matter how tragic, is an unforgivable sin. If you are a believer in Christ, you will go to heaven. Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit and the refusal to believe in Christ are both sins that cannot be forgiven.
“But whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven, he is guilty of an eternal sin.” (Mark 3:29)
One thing I do know they didn’t have to end the way they did. They could have chosen a different way.