Was it love at first sight?
That’s a good question and I’m sure many have asked ourselves that before, I did. “If you believe in love at first sight, you will never stop looking.” Closer (2004; directed by Mike Nichols). Love at first sight doesn’t always mean a sexual attraction. It’s a connection that you both have that can lead into something profound and genuine.
I’ve always been a sucker for love, relationship, and family and at one point it felt like it would never come. The relationships didn’t last or the ones that lasted a while just went down the drain because “HE” had to cheat or the ex came back into their lives and those 5 years we were together meant nothing.
When I met my ex-husband, I knew I was on the rebound from a broken heart but I was desperate for someone to take away the pain. I wanted someone to make it right again. It didn’t take long for me to convince myself that this was it. Well I was so far from being right. Haha! We got married after dating for about 6 months and I saw signs but was blinded by the idea of marriage. Let’s just say that we were not on the same level and childish games was not part of my game.
I wish not go into details but lets just say when she called I was not mad. I simple said “He’s in the shower, please call back” a couple days later I was out the door and I did not look back. Those 3 years were just hiccups in my life that have made me stronger today. One thing I did swear to myself that I would never get married again. Man was I ever more wrong on that one too.
Okay, let’s get to the real deal. So I asked my husband to write something about when we first met. Here you go!
I was in Iraq in a very low energy unit; some would say its mission was just as important as any other units. I challenge that based on prior deployment experiences. Nevertheless I was there and kind of enjoying it. There were many things to do when not in shift and I maximized my opportunity to keep my morale at a high level. I was placed on a weird shift, as I was the only one in the unit that worked half the day with the day crew and the other half with the night crew.
Working 3pm to 3 am, so naturally when all the top dogs went home at 8pm I spent some time with the night shift and the environment was much different. It was still a quiet room, which I typically don’t allow for any lengthy period of time.
Anyway, during my deployment a unit transitioned and in came another just as usual. Always replacing unit like a revolving door. The new unit was ready for work and then there was her. A SSG with beautiful dark skin, the lights of the room shined off of her. Her hair was maybe shoulder length. She had the best twist or braids on the top I’ve ever seen. Sometimes she looked as if she was ready to kill, but she always looked stunning.
As mentioned, I was always loud and always making myself known. Sometimes I would go to the area she was at only to BS with those around her. I never thought anything about pursuing because I had that fear of speaking to females because I never know if I were too direct; and if I was, would it be sexual harassment. So I never said anything.
Making the move
Then I got some emails that made me think it was ok to speak to this female whom I already thought was something I would pursue for a good time. We exchange emails, we exchanged propositions and ultimately we snuck off at the end of my shift to get a good night kiss in a bunker.
I went on leave and she never left my mind, I knew I wanted to be with her and I was prepared to do whatever I had to in order for that to happen. So I returned to Iraq and we had our weekly date night at the little pizza joint on post and we continued to vibe. I knew that in order for anything to work for any period of time I would have to jump in and make her my wife. We discussed how much we didn’t know about each other.
We ultimately hung out everyday. No alcohol around, talked, did adult things, and planned for our future and how scary it would be. After barely 4 months of knowing each other we got married in Las Vegas while she was on leave. She left Jody Greene and 2 weeks later went back as Jody Gosizk.
Now almost 7 years later, we are still married with 3 beautiful children and we continue to learn and tolerate each other as we grow as individuals and parents.
I love my wife, I’m so glad she emailed me that night in Iraq.
End of his story!
The way he tells this always makes me laugh. There’s so much more to it but we’ll stick with this one because the shit this guy says and how loud he was while on night shift is nothing compared to what he wrote. I’m not sure if it was that, his unforgettable laugh, or his statue that drew me to him but from the first time we talked I knew that was it for me. He was the one!
Was it love at first sight? No, it was love at first conversation. Not everyone’s love starts the same. I’ve maintained hope but I had stopped looking. All it took was a conversation.