Parental Instinct To Protect

Main Interests

As a parent, one of our main interests is to protect the well-being of our children. We have a common sense about us that is an attempt to eliminate hazardous situations. Sometimes we know our neighborhoods, and have an area that we do not go.  We know that in those ares the crime levels are higher, thinking there is a greater risk for our safety.

And then at times we make a decision that hinders the safety if only for a moment of our children and ourselves. Most times when a risk is taken it is because it is a common, almost routine second thought, like driving above the posted speed limit for example. We make the decision to conduct ourselves in that way because we still have control of the situation.

What do we do?

So what do we do when we are taken out of the equation, and no longer have control? Do we panic or do we conform? Do we assume that everything is going to be ok, because we want to believe in the comfort that we have done all we can to protect our children? Often these are thoughts we generally don’t spend much time on. It is inherent that I send my children to church and school to better themselves spiritually and mentally. These are things that have to happen to develop our children to being the best person they can be in the future and for their children. These places are the roots of society.

What can we do?

Do I have to wonder that when I send them off with a hug and a kiss, or when they get older a nonchalant wave to not embarrass them in front of their friends, that I may not be able to touch their warm skin or see the glimmer of love in their eyes ever again? The hard truth is yes, I do! I may not have the morbid description stated above, but it is engrained in me to worry, wonder, and pray for their safe return.

The debate is going crazy on social media and other places where laws are made, but it is a debate. It is not a discussion. Both sides are saying that ideas such as taking weapons away or putting armed guards in places where there is risk is the answer. Each action requires much involvement.

I’m going to try to give some examples without providing a stance. I want to talk on both aspects, down the middle if you will? Armed teachers, more armed security, gun free school zones, weapons registration, weapons purchasing requirements, weapons ban? These are some of the ideas out there. As parents we have to make a decision as to what we need to do.

My Proposal

Home School?

I would like to propose a new way to educate and present our children to the word of the Lord? The Internet!

My children are home with me in a secure location. Colleges are increasing their on-line enrollment every year, why can’t a school district offer the same thing, stream the classroom so if I feel my kid isn’t safe there they can stay with me.

If I am not in a financial situation where I can move them to safer area, I can only hope I can afford an Internet service at least. Let my kids learn in the classroom on-line. The teachers can be armed, the security can be armed, the kid two houses down can be armed, but my kid doesn’t have to be in the crossfire of the next occurrence.

The same goes for church, big churches have so many people attending that the pastor looks like Luke Bryan on a concert stage? The Pastor is broadcasted so everyone can see him and some are even streamed on-line. You see what I did! I offered a solution in which I can make a difference.

What I can’t do

I can’t make the armed security guard respond if he or she freezes in an incident. Neither can I make sure that an armed teacher doesn’t get hit in the back of the head with a chair while writing on the dry erase board and has their gun taken from them. I can’t make that kid down the street alter his mind to think; shooting up the place isn’t a good thing to do today. As parents we can’t control everything, we have to take risks.

I can purchase a bullet proof backpack and conduct drills with my kid to know what to do if a shooting happens like we conduct fire drills, or tornado drills, or even during the Cold War, we conducted responding to Nuclear attack drills. The drills may be uncomfortable too, but we can do them.

Final Thoughts

What I am saying is that there is not a single solution, this is a societal problem and all those things being discussed, incorporated together, could actually be the solution. But what we have to say is my way isn’t right in and of itself. We have to work together. Bad people will be bad people, but love and open honest discussion with action could work. Let’s not worry about what we may or may not be giving up. Let’s just try to see that we are providing a better tomorrow and protection for the ones we hold dearest, today!



Christopher John Gosizk Jr Birthday!

Christopher John Gosizk Jr (CJ)

After 3 years of trying, the day had finally come. Christopher John Gosizk Jr (CJ) was born on February 14, 2015 at 12:21am in Honolulu, Hawaii. This was one of the happiest days of our life. CJ can be the sweetest, loving kid and some days the most challenging kid we know. There is never a dull moment with him. He is definitely keeping me on my toes. He is our Valentines Day gift and we wouldn’t ask for it any other way.

Happy Valentines! Happy Birthday!


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Trying to understand Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)

What is Sensory processing disorder?

The sensory processing disorder or in short (SPD) is a condition in which the sensory signals function work properly to pass the relevant responses. It limits a portion of the brain from getting the needed information so to interpret this sensory information correctly. Children suffering from this state can have difficulty performing various tasks since they find it hard to process the information they received. This condition can significantly affect the learning ability of school-age children.

As a parent you always want the best for your children. When difficult situations arise you sometimes beat yourself up wondering if you did something wrong or ask yourself are you doing enough? Being a parent of a child that suffers from SPD can be overwhelming, challenging and sometimes rewarding. Yes rewarding! Seeing the improvements, overcoming difficulties and doing things you’ve never knew they could do, gets you excited and it becomes rewarding for all.

Experiences with SPD

Most of the children with SPD also experience problems in their motor skills. SPD also increases the risk of children from developing various educational, emotional, and social disorders. It makes it hard for them to meet other people and make friends. Children with this condition can also suffer from depression, anxiety, and aggression. Aside from that, these children can also become uncooperative, disruptive, and clumsy.

Each child is different but there are so many things that can possibly go wrong. My son has his own way of coping with situations that seems normal to most kids but very stressful to him. He does not respond to his name and he only repeats some words he has heard numerous times. Not responding to his name is a difficult thing to deal with especially if we’re trying to have playtime outdoors but we have to have eyes on him at all times to ensure that we have a quick response to the potential dangers around.

He will not eat solid foods due to the texture. This is also a huge factor in his developmental system. There comes a point where he will need to have these essential foods to grow and be healthy. He plays mostly by himself or when once over stimulated he will find an area to be alone to seek comfort. When he’s having a sensory overload, we say he’s having a neurological ‘panic’ because it’s his response to everyday sensations the rest of us take for granted.

Types of Treatments

Fortunately, most cases of sensory processing disorder can be treated at home with the help of caregivers and parents. The first thing that parents can do is to focus on the individual’s needs of their children. These needs vary from child to child. It is important that parents learn to determine the things that make their children feel secure and loved. It will also help if they give them the opportunity to do the things that they love.

Having physical therapy and occupational therapy has benefited drastically. You may not see the results right away but it’ll come. There is an abundance amount of care available to children with SPD. Parents can develop exercises, tools, and activities that can help their child learn some of the basic things. It is better when parents use the exercises that are suggested by their child’s doctor or therapist. Activities such as swinging and also playing are known to help children become more focused.

Distress times

In times of distress, parents should remain calm. It is advisable that they remove the things that make their children feel distressed. If the cause of the distress is the surrounding, it will help if they bring their children to a place where they can relax. It is also important that parents learn to identify other factors that affect their children.

Children with sensory processing disorder need the love and support of their parents to help them manage the condition. Parents should make sure that they provide their children the treatment they need. It is also important that they engage their children in various activities that match their sensory processing needs. With the right treatment and activities as well as with the support from a parent, children can effectively deal with their sensory processing disorder.

Look for the signs

I saw the signs and although I was told, he would grow out of it; I was not willing to take that chance. Seeing early signs that something is different with your child is one of the hardest things to deal with because you are in the unknown stage due to age. That did not matter to me at all. The earliest I was able to get the treatment the better. It’s never a bad thing to listen to your parent instincts and seek help even if it turns out to be nothing. I want to give my children every single opportunity at life there is so they can have the tools they need to succeed. Having SPD is difficult for both the parents and child but YOU have the power to make a change.

My husband and I are still learning and, neither of us had ever heard about this disorder until it happened to our child. I am asking for any other stories or testimonials that could possibly assist our child in the future? What therapies have you or someone you’ve known tried? As each case is different and unique, are results basically the same? Sometimes the hardest thing to get is an answer when professionals are reluctant to speculate because of the uniqueness of each case. We are just trying to get more answers to help us as parents as much as helping our child.


A stay at home mom and a mom going out to work.







Pros Vs. Cons of being a stay-at-home mom and a mom going out to work

Today there are those who still think that being a stay-at-home mom is only part of our performance as women and even something that does not require a much effort. While there are those who know that having and caring for children is a full-time job. Only every woman knows whether she should continue working or stay-at-home. However both scenarios has its pros and cons.

The first thing I would like to emphasize is the concept of what it is to stay-at-home and keep working because when you decide to stay and raise your children, it does not mean at all that we are not going to work. On the contrary, those who value this decision know that work at home is sometimes even more forced than doing it at a company, because at home there are no established hours or a pay that equals all functions.

However, those who leave must also bear the weight of the responsibilities that their profession indicates, more apart from getting home and keeping up with the pace, therefore I dare to say that there is no inclination towards either of them.

 Moms who stay at home 


  • You do not have a fixed schedule so all day you’re up and down.
  • You have no monetary payment.
  • Everyone thinks that since you are at home, you do nothing.
  • Although you dress well, you end up full of throw-up, milk, paint, mud and the unknown at times.
  • You miss working and interacting more with adults
  • The unemployment gap gets bigger.


  • You are all the time with your children, which could make up for everything.
  • You do not have to worry about asking permission to go on vacation.
  • Once you pick up the pace, the tasks become easier and you get organized better.
  • After a certain stage you start to take more time for yourself.
  • As your children grow, you can add more recreational or restful activities to your day.
  • Do not worry about getting daycare or babysitting. 

Moms going out to work


  • You miss many special moments with your children.
  • Many people dismiss working mothers as abandoning their children.
  • It is a constant battle to find a reliable school, daycare or nanny.
  • In addition to the work of the office, you get home to take care of the children.
  • You must be well dressed even on the days you put on a shirt and sports pants.
  • Every day you get up early and you just do have a break.
  • In constant conflict over extended hours or meetings that do not allow you to leave work early.


  • You have a profession and good economic support.
  • The feeling of an additional independence.
  • An additional paycheck.
  • You’re staying in the game career-wise.
  • Staying connected to the larger world.
  • The intellectual stimulation is fulfilled.

So as you can see, there are many advantages and disadvantages of either role as a mother, although the perspective can change according to the priorities of each woman. If you insist on combining both tasks, there are many options about work at home which may not be the same as going to work but you can continue enjoying your little ones.

Is it worth it?

From the moment I found out that I was pregnant I knew I had to stay at home. At times I really wanted to go back to work but the overall feeling of being at home for their biggest first moments in life has meant everything to me. They have impacted my life tremendously and made me such a better mom and person. They have shown me how precious and delicate life was and my world will never be the same again. It is most definitely worth it.


My First Jump: If it’s easy it probably isn’t worth it!

What’s my next move?

As a senior in high school in 1997, I was contemplating what my next move would be. I needed to make my first jump into life to succeed. Maybe I was thinking what my first move would be. Maybe, I was just trying to figure out what was within myself. I’m not sure exactly. One thing I learned growing up was that I had to be aware of my surroundings and know what was in my neighborhood. Be aware of what and where the positive and negative influences were. I didn’t have to be smart like from a book. I had to be street smart.

Being young and attempting to soak in as much as I could like a sponge, I noticed an Army Recruiter that lived in the same apartment complex as me. Curious about the path that she took, I became intrigued and proud of how she was on her own making it, in the real world. Not knowing what her qualifications were, I found something that I had an interest in. This was the point in my life where I had to finally grow up and embrace my responsibilities as the young adult I had become.

This was a path with no definitive journey or an anticipated outcome. Just living each day for that day, and if I did not make a decision about whom I wanted to be, then I may end up like those that I grew up around. I am not saying that those that I grew up around were all negative, but I feel as if I never fit in. My family support system was not strong, more times than not it was non-existent.

Making that move

So, I spoke to the recruiter and got some information. We had talked about bettering myself through education. I ran track and cross-country in high school but there was not going to be an athletic scholarship for me. I also got pretty good grades, but I didn’t see an academic scholarship coming my way either. Finally, I came to the decision that I was going to enlist in the Army. True to fashion, an obstacle was in my way and my mother had to given me permission to enlist. It was odd that a parent had to give a high school graduate permission to join the Army like it was some kind of field trip taken for science classes. Either way, I got permission to take that field trip to what was called “Basic Training.”

This time I uprooted myself, and off to Fort Jackson, SC, I went. Coincidentally, I was to stay there to complete my Advanced Individual Training (AIT) as well. I took the first step to completing the “me” and what I wanted to be. Seventeen and finally on my own; I found myself doing something that was going to a benefit me in my life and my future.


Knowing that I was on my way to being successful was an eye-opening experience. What wasn’t so eye-opening, were the long days in training and the countless hours of sitting in the classroom. Constantly standing only to try to stay awake, and not really remember what the lessons were. I didn’t mind if I missed a point of emphasis, I did mind the Drill Sergeant in my face reminding me that I needed to be awake.

I signed up for a run team within the trainees to help pass some off time, as little as it was. Catching up on some well-needed sleep was not an option, nor did they have a club. I kept a competitive advantage over most of the other females due to my running backgroung in high school. And being better was my motivation to continue in giving 100%. I envisioned where I was going, I could picture that Army recruiter, and I knew that average was not going to cut it. I maintained excellence because my will only allowed that. During those four months were classroom training, field training, marching, running and more running, reprimanding, and finally graduating. I made it to the next chapter in my life; I was a United States Army Soldier! Continue reading “My First Jump: If it’s easy it probably isn’t worth it!”